The First Step…Together!

Posted: November 5, 2012 in You're Not Alone!


I’ve received an overwhelming response to this blog. I cannot express how happy I am that not only are people reading it, but that they are also inspired by my story and given hope for healing and rejuvenation.

The only drawback that I realized after posting my story, was that even though hundreds of people have read the purpose of the blog and the beginning of my story, they have not found the courage to tell their story…even to me. This revelation proves how strong and how binding the baggage of sexual abuse is on a victim. It shows just how filthy and enormous our dirty, little secret is. It saddens me greatly, but does not deter me. In fact, it makes me that much more determined to effect change and help others like myself to begin to heal.

The first step to healing is TELLING THE SECRET! Secrets, by nature, provide stress. Think for an instance about a surprise party. If you are the host of or involved in the planning of a surprise party, you have to keep it a secret from the person the party is for. Think about how difficult it is to hold onto the secret…how hard it is not to tell the person about it or to hold onto those key details that keep the ‘secret’ a ‘secret.’ A surprise party is a happy time, and it is very exciting to think about how happy the person will be when they know what you planned, how much work went into it, how many people arrive and support them, and how cool the decorations look. But holding the ‘secret’ is stressful, right? So, how much more baggage would a bad ‘secret’ weigh you down. A ‘secret’ that not only do you not want anyone to know, but you NEVER intend to tell. You hold onto this heavy baggage day after day, month after month, year after year. How long can a person hold onto that type of stress, that much heavy baggage and still remain healthy, physically, emotionally, spiritually? Think about it. Getting rid of the baggage that you never should have taken ownership of is the first step to lightening your load and unbinding your subconscious self. It is your first step to becoming a complete person. It is your first step to stripping the victim mentality to uncover the survivor in you.

I understand if you cannot respond to my story, my posts, my blog in general because you don’t feel comfortable telling your secret. Don’t feel guilty about that! Don’t feel bad! It is perfectly normal. Who wants the world to know that they’ve shed the baggage and have unearthed their vulnerabilities? I get it! I used to be the same way. It is just now that I can come forward without guilt, shame or apprehension and tell the world my dirty, little ‘secret.’ I don’t want it to be a ‘secret’ anymore! I am no longer a victim…I am a SURVIVOR! So, instead of saying nothing, say something to me directly at We can talk. We can chat. We can cry. We can be angry. But either way, we heal…TOGETHER.




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